Comments on: thinking out loud… (so to speak)

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 23:50:16 +0000

I am going to pick your brain a little……bare with me….

Besides it being bedtime have you noticed any other things that might bring on her scream fest? Feedings in particular? Do you write down the times you feed her in a log book and the specific times of night she is screaming? How do you have her laying in bed? Flat on the back, side? DO you keep a log of her P’s and Poops (sorry for that)? Any constipation?

Curiosity has me wondering if the little pooper might have a case of acid reflux? If so, medication is miraculous. Kenzie did the same thing every night for over three months. Then we got her on Zantac. We also put a wedge under her back to get her up to a 45 degree angle or actually put her car carrier in the crib and fastened her in. The increased angle helped prevent the acid from coming back up as much and the zantac helped by reducing the amount of acid her tummy produced. The other thing we noticed was that when she had breast milk she was less fussy than with the Enfamil alone. ALl these three things helped to make her happy and get us through the nights.

Just a thought. Maybe you could mention it at her next Dr. apt.? I hope it gets better. This is the hard part. Hang in there.

By: jennifer

jennifer — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 01:53:03 +0000

your post on nursing helped me though such a difficult time–i’m a new mama this spring, as well. this post, for me, rings that celebration i feel everyday with my own little one. i love seeing this sentiment echoed is so many different, lovingly creative ways! thank you for sending that energy out…

By: penelope

penelope — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 23:38:16 +0000

Yes! Sorry… been just a bit distracted. It is pronounced Vayda.

Thank you all once again for your awesome comments and support. I love this little tribe. :)

By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 21:25:14 +0000

Amanda – To answer your question, it’s pronounced Vayda :) Thought I’d help you out, Pen :)

By: Indigene

Indigene — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 02:43:01 +0000

Hang in there new Mommie! It will get tremendously better. My 14 year old was the same way as a baby! Trust me I understand the dread. I used to take her to the sink and let the water run. For some reason, the sound of the faucet running water calmed her. Now all I have to do is tell her what’s she done to our water supply on earth! lol! Hang on, you’re on an incredible journey.

By: May

May — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 16:53:09 +0000

Yeah, nerves of steel. What helped me back then was something my father said to me once when I’d done something stupid: the obligation is not of the child to parent but of the parent to child. Or something like that. Meaning, that the kid will be who s/he will be and your job is to love, unconditionally.

By: Katie

Katie — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:51:49 +0000

It’s so bizarre you mentioned the mantra thing…when you were at Lowe’s exchanging the shades, I just sang that to her over and over and over while I walked around with her. I felt like it was mantra-ish, too! After a while, the words just kept melting together and I was much calmer even though she was losing it. Glad I wasn’t losing it! She’ll sleep better soon…this, too, shall pass :)

xo,
YSIL

By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 16:38:26 +0000

Ahh, the witching hour.

Your approach is much better than mine was. Our first son was a screamer. Every night starting at 5pm, he’d howl non-stop, and I would cry right along with him.

The Happiest Baby on the Block techniques really helped us, too. I’d swaddle him and turn his baby monitor to static-mode and he would just close his little mouth and stare up at the ceiling. It felt like a miracle.

But you seem to be handling Veda beautifully. You are an inspiration. Do you pronounce it Vayda? or Veeda? Just curious.

By: samantha

samantha — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 13:45:04 +0000

You are lovely! and wise. Our instinct is our greatest tool as mamas. I wanted to echo what Alex said above… if we waited too long to put our doodle bug to bed, well, it was a lot of screaming. We start around 7 and sometimes when he is in one of those moods we go for a walk before bed and that is just enough distraction to mellow him out. I also have had to change my perspective. I can relate to sometimes feeling anxious about all the other things I could be getting done while he is just crying away. I now try to remind myself that this is my life right now, not forever, and one day I will miss these days when he is our wee baby. hmmmm, tears…

By: pixie

pixie — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 06:39:38 +0000

dear pumpkin. you have a lot of heart and wisdom in you and having veda just exaggerates it. i don’t know where we get the endurance to get through the first months, but we do and then it all changes into some other issue that requires new information and on and on and on. but the early months can really turn the hairs grey, eh? keep dancing and keep singing. she’ll sleep eventually and then you can, too. hang in, love. you’re doing so great. both of you! xoxo p